Brief Update!

Here is a very brief little update!  In 5 hours we will be at the hospital preparing for an induction so we can finally see our little Jaxon's face!  I am excited, anxious, and also nervous!  I think this is the most nervous I have been with a delivery!  I am just worried about his size and hoping I can deliver him myself without a c-section!  I will post pictures once he is here, but for now I must "try" to get some sleep!

2 days to 40 weeks

Here is an update on what is going on in the Coker household!  I have 2 days left til my due date of 40 weeks.  It seems that Jaxon has decided to make himself at home for a bit longer than expected!  All 3 of the other kids were born 5 days early and here we are at 2 days and he is still snug as a bug in a rug!  We were desperately hoping he would make it here for Christmas but no :(.  Now I am desperately hoping he is here at least by his due date but the closer we get the more worried I get.  Houston weighed 8lb 11oz at 5 days early.  I guesstimated that Jaxon would be right at 9lbs if he was 5 days early but now I don't know how big he is getting.  If I go to my due date, and even now, he could already be nearing 10lbs.  I am getting a little worried as I don't want him to get so big that I can't deliver him on my own!  I truly do not want a c-section.  I am partially scared of them.  I have never had an operation in my life (aside from my wisdom teeth).  I don't know what to expect of my own body except what I have heard from other people.  However, no two people are alike!  I guess I will just have to wait and see!  Please pray for me everyone!  Thank you!

Just under 3 months left to go!

This pregnancy has gone by so fast!  There have been some bumps in the road, including severe headaches, dizzy spells and very uncomfortable back pain!  However, for some reason, those things have not "slowed" my pregnancy down.  I feel like it has just been flying by!  So far, the headaches and dizzy spells are gone!  The back pain is being worked on but is much better!  I have been in physical therapy for the back pain and they have been working on my back both with chiropractics and physical therapy exercises!  I am so grateful for all they have done for my back!
Well, It has been a while since my last blog but we have finally chosen a name for our little guy!  His name is going to be Jaxon Lee Coker!  I was so happy when we were finally able to like, agree and decide on a name.  I have been getting so nervous as time got closer that we would end up at delivery day and not have a name chosen yet.  Well, those nerves have been relaxed as we both love the name Jaxon and even the nick name Jax.
Now, for the most recent news, I had my 28 week appt just recently.  According to the measurements, my belly is measuring at 30 weeks instead of 28!  I am excited and nervous at the same time about that.  I am hoping that it means that he is actually due 2 weeks ahead of my due date (Dec. 28th).  That would give us plenty of time to be home and settled for Christmas!  I am nervous though, because it could mean that he is still due Dec. 28th and is just going to be a big baby!  That makes me nervous because I don't want him to get too big that I end up needing to have a c-section.  Well, I know I still have a little more time for them to figure all that out.  So, I am going to leave you all with that bit of an update and I will update with more info soon!

Girl or Boy?

So we find out in 6 days whether we are having a girl or a boy!  I have been praying ever since the day we found out, hoping this one will be a girl.  Hayli has been asking for a baby sister since the day Houston was born!  I feel obligated to give her a baby sister and yet I have no control over that.  All I can do it pray!  I am starting to get very anxious and nervous as the day gets closer to finding out what this little baby is.  We already have names picked out for each but I am very partial to the girl's name Allee Renay Coker!

Everyone who reads this, please pray for a baby girl!

16 weeks now!

       So I am 16 weeks along now.  I have been having a rough past 4 weeks!  About a week ago I started spotting and I got so worried that something was wrong!  I called my dr and he said that if there is no pain then he is not worried!  I spotted for 4 days and was, of course, paranoid the entire time!  On top of the spotting I have been having terrible headaches.  They started about 4 weeks ago but didn't get bad until about a week ago!  I have terrible pain in my neck that wraps all the way up over the top of my head to my sinuses.  The muscles in my neck and shoulders tighten and hurt as well!  They have also had me worried as they can last for days at a time!  The longest I have had one last is 4 days!  I have never had these symptoms before in pregnancy, although, I know they can happen.  I got myself so worried though because I have never had any problems like this before.  The headaches get so bad that they put me in tears!  I ended up sitting on the floor in my shower for 45 min in tears one night because the pain was so bad!  All I could do was cry and pray that God would take my pain away!  My headache did finally ease up but it didn't go away, however, I was able to go to sleep.
      I had my doctor's appointment yesterday (7-13-11).   I was so worried that the doctor was going to find something wrong.  I also had to take my glucose test this time because I had gestational diabetes with my first pregnancy and I was on the edge with my other two.  That is not exactly a fun test to take.  They also had to draw blood for the second part of my down syndrome test as well.  The nurse weighed me and I noticed that I had only gained 5 pounds total in 16 weeks (4 months) and only 1 pound total in the past 4 weeks!  I was happy with that but I did ask the dr if she was ok and happy with that.  She was perfectly fine with it.  I was anxious to hear the baby's heart beat on the little monitor.  I was also paranoid that something was wrong and maybe the doctor wouldn't find the heart beat.  As soon as she put the monitor on my belly, I immediately heard my little munchkin's heart beat.  I smiled and the doctor smiled and said it sounds great!  I was so relieved!  I then explained to the doctor about my headaches and how bad they had been.  She then wrote me a prescription for Fioricet, which is a combination of Tylenol, Caffeine, and a little bit of a narcotic.  I was glad that she was understanding and felt it necessary to write me a prescription.  She also said that these headaches can last for another month or so.  I was not happy to hear that but I am hoping I can make it through with my meds on hand!  I must say I am feeling much better now that I have been able to see that I and baby are doing just fine!  I also asked the doctor about my spotting and she said as long as baby has a healthy heart beat, there is no concern!  I was also happy to hear that!
      Well that is my update for now!  I will post more probably after my next appointment which will be the big ultrasound to find out what we are having!  Praying for a girl (Allee Renae Coker)!!!!!!!!!!!!

Still Hasn't Hit Me Yet!

I am almost 12 weeks pregnant and it still hasn't completely hit me yet!  I know in my mind that I am pregnant and all of my pregnancy tests were positive!  My last visit with my doctor, he measured my uterus with his hands and said everything was the right size.  I guess I am just waiting for my first ultrasound!  I haven't actually gotten to see my little bean yet!  I am so anxious and getting very excited to see her (hoping it's a girl).  I'm not sure but am almost certain they won't be able to tell what I am having just yet.  I will only be 12 weeks along when I have my first ultrasound!  I am still anxious to see little bit and make sure everything is ok. 
As far as me dealing with my pregnancy so far, it has been a little rough at times.  I have had days where I have just felt sick all day long.  I have not thrown up yet but I have been extremely nauseous.  This is a first for me.  I was never nauseous with any of my other pregnancies.  I have also just recently started having problems with my sciatic nerve.  That is going to be my first question for the doctor when I go back.   What can I do to alleviate the pain on my left side from my sciatic nerve! 
I have 6 days left until my first ultrasound and I am taking it day by day and hoping this time will go by at least at a decent pace so I don't feel like the time is just dragging on!  I am hoping and praying that everything is alright with my little bean and she/he is growing perfectly!

Exhausted!

I am exhausted with people who call themselves friends.  Especially when the reason they became a closer friend in the first place was so the could get closer to your husband!  They get caught when I find that they sent a picture of themself to my husbands phone and then they try to blame it on him!  It is so frustrating because this person in peticular is one that my husband can't stand and is not attracted to in any way!  They try to say the picture was sent by accident but in the midst of conversation, the truth comes out and the picture was meant to be sent in the first place!  Needless to say I cut all ties with this friend and it really hurt me that this person would even try this knowing I am pregnant with my 4th child and they considered themself to be a good friend!  I can't stand fakers and I have really hardened my heart to letting people in now!  I have one good friend that is not actually family or technically related!  Although, she is like a sister to me, but she has been there for me for the past 10 years at least and I will love her forever!  She is my BEST friend!

New Beginnings!

I know it's been a while since my last blog and a lot has happened since then too!  My family has moved to a new place.  We have moved an hour away from where we used to live in Hopewell, to beautiful Williamsburg Va!  I was worried about how the kids would take to a new place, a new town, and being so far away from our extended families.
Suprisingly, they took to our new home very well.  They really enjoy the playground outside our apartment and my husband especially enjoys the greatly shortened drive to work.  He gets more sleep and we see him a lot more now since he doesn't have to drive a whole hour one way to get to and from work.
On top of our new move and adjusting to the new area, we just discovered that we are having baby number 4.  At this moment, I am about 5 weeks and 5 days along and due around December 28th.  I am hoping that we have a little girl so Hayli can have a little sister.  She has been asking for a baby sister for a long time, but doesn't know about this baby yet.  I am hoping and praying that it is a girl for her.  Also, I would love for Lance to experience a baby girl also being that he wasn't there when Hayli was a baby. 
I have even picked out the names for a boy and a girl.  If we have a girl, her name will be Allee Rae Coker.  Her first name comes from a combination of Lee Alan which was my brother"s (who passed away) name.  Rae is Lance's mom's middle name and he wanted to have that as his girl's middle name.  If we have a boy, his name will be Aiden Lee Coker.  Aiden is just a name that both Lance and I like and Lee of course is my brother's name again. 
My goal is to really enjoy this pregnancy, exercise safely, and eat better so I can in turn feel better and have more energy!  I am trying to stay away from eating a lot of greasy and fatty foods.  Sweets too.  I tend to love my sweets when I am pregnant and that doesn't help with keeping weight gain at a minimum.  I am determined to keep busy so I am not sitting around the house doing nothing all day everyday. 
While we are excited about this baby, it is also our last!  We had decided that 4 would be the cut off for us and is plenty to handle.  I am kinda glad we are having our last one this soon.  I wanted to be done having kids by the time I turned 30 so we would still be young when the kids were in highschool that we can enjoy them and be involved in everything while they are growing up and still be young enough to enjoy ourselves once the kids are grown and out of the house. 
These are the big things that have happened since the last blog I wrote!

Stress Release!

So, two days ago, we finally recieved all of our w2s to file our taxes.  That night we put everything into Taxslayer and sent it off.  The next morning, Lance checks his e-mail only to find our tax return was rejected.  He scrolled down to find out the reasons for the rejection.  The e-mail stated, your refund was rejected because one of your dependants was claimed on someone elses tax return.  We immediately looked at each other with angry eyes and knew exactly what happened.  Hayli had been claimed on her dad's tax return.  Not only did he claim her without notifying me, but he also claimed her illegally.  The law states that he has to recieve written consent from me in order to claim her on his taxes.  I was never consulted on this situation and I would have never allowed it either.  However, thanks to him claiming her on his taxes, we could no longer file ours online.  We had to file ours on paper and mail them.  We were so angry because that meant that it was going to take longer to recieve our refund.  We decided to take a trip up to the Federal building in Richmond to the IRS to see what we could do about him claiming her illegally.  I went in and spoke to the man behind the desk and he said the only thing we could do was file our return, claiming her, and the IRS will send both me and her dad a letter asking us to provide information on how long she lived in our home last year.  Obviously, being that he hasn't even seen her since May 1st of last year, she hasn't lived in his house for at least 6 months, which is what has to happen before she can be his qualifying child.  I called him, and asked his girlfriend to get him to call me back but he still to this day has not called me back. 

On top of the stress of Hayli and Austin's dad, there has been stress in the family from Lance's side.  Lance's brother Bryant has a daughter with his girlfriend Tiffany.  There were worries from Lance's mom, when Tiffany first got pregnant that the baby might not be Bryant's.  Their mom knew of a situation where Tiffany was either off on a hunting trip with a few guys, but without Bryant.  She was not happy about that at all and was worried that Bryant might be committing himself to something/someone that may not be his.  Lance's mom kept after Bryant until the baby was born that she wanted him to get a DNA test done to make sure the baby was his.  He didn't get it done bc, Tiffany said that he would not have been able to put his name on the birth certificate if he had any doubt that the baby was his.  After all of that, his mom left it alone and didn't bother with it anymore.  The baby, Isabel, is now 4 months old.  As she is getting bigger, Lance's dad is watching her features and is now worried because he doesn't see any of Bryant in little Isabel.  He kept it to himself for a little bit but then it started weighing on his heart that he did not want his son carrying someone else's responsibility if she is not biologically his.  Lance's mom started meantioning it to Bryant again and said that Isabel looks nothing like his baby pictures and there aren't even any features between him now and Isabel either.  She also said, that doesn't mean that she is not his child.  Also, Tiffany does not allow Bryant to be alone with the baby.  She will not let him leave the house with her by himself, and when he is off for two days, she still has her grandmother come over to the house to watch the baby while Bryant is there.  Lance's mom was starting to get bothered by that because it seemed like Tiffany was worried that Bryant was going to try and get a DNA test or something like that and find out something she didn't want him to find out.  Donna (Lance's mom) has been telling myself and Lance all about their worries, so Lance picked up the phone and called Bryant to tell him how their mom and dad felt and that he should just go ahead and get the DNA test done to ease their minds.  Lance had also texted Bryant about it too.  Tiffany saw the text message Lance sent Bryant about the baby not looking anything like Bryant and that they needed to get a DNA test done.  She got angry and posted a status on facebook about it.  She said, Does Isabel look like Bryant or does she look like me.....just trying to prove a point.    She had all of her friends comment on it saying the baby looks just like Bryant and Identical and other similar words.  One of her friends decided to make a nasty comment about the family saying that Bryant's family needs to just stay out of it and keep their mouths shut and let him live his own life with his family.  Tiffany had quite a few other things to say as well.  I politely commented telling Tiffany that this did not need to be posted out on facebook for everyone else to get involved, and that was making the situation worse.  She then said that she didn't feel that the situation was private anymore so she doesn't care who knows about it.  Then she said that she wanted anymore questions or comments to be sent via text message to her phone and that she was done commenting on facebook.  I then sent her a text message saying that I wasn't trying to make anyone mad, I just didn't think the situation needed to be plastered on facebook, it is something that needs to be handled between the people involved and not everyone else in cyberspace.  She just said that the situation didn't even need to "be".  I told her I understood that but she made the situation worse by putting it out on facebook.  She said no it didn't.  Anyway, I told her that she needed to go talk to Lance's parents instead of fussing at everyone else about the whole thing.  She said it wasn't even about Lance's parents and that it was all towards Lance because he sent the text message to Bryant.  I then explained to her why he sent it to Bryant and she just said oh well.  Also in her comments on facebook, she put "If you want to waist $90 on the DNA test go right ahead, but I'm not going to pay to hear something I already know!"  That comment was based on the conversation between Bryant and his mom so I know that whole comment and status was not posted just because of Lance.  Donna feels that because of Tiffany's hostility and reluctance to do the DNA test, she is making it look like she has something to hide, instead of being willing (but understadably hurt) to do the DNA test just to prove that Bryant is her dad.  She has, as she puts it, washed her hands of Lance and Bryant's family and won't talk to any of us anymore. 

I know I pretty much just babbled on and on with the above situations but I needed a release as they have been weighing on my mind for the past couple days.  I can totally understand if you get bored with my babbling and end up not reading this but that is ok.  It helped me.  I just pray that God will settle both of these situations easily and quickly so the flames can die down and the coals can settle and cool off!

He's growing up!

My little man is 7 months old today!  I can't believe how fast the time has gone!  He has also been advancing very quickly too!  He started crawling at 5 months old and now he is pulling up on the furniture and kinda working his way around it!  It is crazy the things he is doing!

My little man is getting so big with sitting up on his own and pulling up on things.  He is looking more and more like his daddy too!!  Especially in the pic above where he is sitting playing with his foot.  I love my little booger and I can't wait to see what surprises he has in store for us as he grows. 

I thank God everyday for the blessings He has given me.  From my husband to my children to my extended families.  He has blessed me with everything I could have ever asked for!  Thank You, Lord!

Holidays are over!

Christmas and New years flew by so fast but they were both full of excitement and joy!

Christmas Eve afternoon, we went over to Lance's parents' house to open and exchange gifts with his sister and brother.  Christmas Eve night, we went to our Christmas Eve service at church.  Then we made our way to my parents' house where we had a wonderful dinner made by my mom.  Dinner consisted of very yummy sliced ham, green beans, broccoli casserole, sweet potatoe casserole and the best dinner roles you will ever eat in your life ( Mrs. Shubert's dinner roles)!   Then for desert we had: pumpkin role, cookies, red velvet cake!  It was all so good!  Then after all of our extended family left for the night, our immediate family (mom, dad, my sister, brother-in-law, my self and Lance and the kids) all exchanged gifts.  Then we went home and put the kids in bed so Santa could come leave their presents under the tree for the next morning!  We actually ended up having to wake the kids up the next morning because they were exhausted from being up late the night before!  However, as soon as we woke them up and reminded them that Santa came, they bolted for their bedroom doors and hurried into the livingroom to see their presents!  Their faces lit up when they saw their gifts under the tree.  It was such a joy to watch them as they openned each gift one by one.

After the finished openning their gifts, we left and headed over to my aunt's house for breakfast (which was also another amazing meal).  Breakfast consisted of 2 breakfast casseroles, 2 potatoe casseroles, a sweet dish with cresent rolls and cream cheese and cinamon and sugar (not sure what it's called), and mixed fruit salad with a yummy sweet sauce to go with it.  You can't go wrong when you eat with the Hazlegrove family! 

After breakfast, the we left and headed over to Hayli and Austin's grandmother's house.  She had quite a few gifts for them as well.  She even had a couple things for Houston.  We hung out there for a while and then headed over to Hayli and Austin's great grandparents' house.  Their great grandparents usually just give them money for Christmas which is also a very generous amount.  They also got Hayli a very cute dress and Austin a very nice looking dressy outfit.  Then they even gave me an extra $50 and said $40 was for me and $10 was for Houston.  After we left there, we headed over to my grandparents' house for Christmas dinner.  The main item on that menu was a wonderfully deep fried turkey! Christmas was just perfect!

Now for New Years!  On New Years Eve the family went to P.F. Chang's for dinner.  It was amazing as always!  After dinner we went to my aunt's house to hang out for the rest of the evening until midnight.  My Aunt and I spent some of the time making and baking some goodies and snacks to munch on while we waited to ring in the New Year.  We spent some time all hanging out chatting while my uncle played different songs from his IPOD.  We had a very enjoyable time.  When it came time to ring in the New Year, we all gathered in the livingroom to watch the count down on the TV.  As soon as 12:00 hit, I got my midnight New Years kiss from my husband of 1 year! 

The holidays were amazing and I couldn't have wanted it any other way!  I have an amazing husband and and amazing family (immediate, and extended).  Thank You Lord for everything you have given me!